Keeping your calm can be the best thing to do.

Today has been a test. It has tested me more than it has in a very long time but I managed to keep my cool and hold down my reaction, to talk it through reasonably and express myself the way I wanted too.

The stress and emotional abuse our family has received from my mother, it doesn’t even sound right calling her that, from this woman who destroyed everything is getting beyond a joke. She has pushed buttons for reactions, made false accusations to make her sound like a victim and is making my poor dad’s life a living hell.

We have a while to wait for proceedings of my parents divorce so it means it won’t be the end of the instigations from her but I’m just proud I have learned not to react to them, not to say the things she wants to hear, not to even get emotional. It has taken years of therapy and CBT to get to this point.

All I can do is be there for my dad, continue supporting him and each other until this awful time is over. I will have my time where I can say my piece and it won’t effect anyone else, I can do it in a calm and effective manor. Explain to her exactly how her actions have impacted each and everyone of us and never have contact again.

Thank you for all your continued support and kind words, it means so much to me to get them. You are wonderful people and I will be continuing to work on myself and making sure I’m a good person! Blessed be.

David Attenborough, real legend.

I woke up this morning feeling a bit disheveled, still sleepy and unsure what to do with my day. My half asleep brain thought David Attenborough’s new documentary on Netflix would be good morning TV.

As much as I love watching nature, as much as I love and respect that man so much I have realised, we as humans suck. It is really hard to have one part of me that’s wants to bring us all together, to teach and inform every generation of mistakes made and problems solved. Yet another part of me hates people, I hate confrontation and uncomfortable situations, I hate expressing myself to be belittled and looked at like I’m crazy.

I don’t know what world I’m leaving to my daughter but all I can do is my part. I am a very small fish in an ocean but I’m trying! Adding this to the pressure already constantly in my head is not good but also necessary. I just don’t know what to do that can make a difference. Any ideas? Blessed be.

The endless possibilities, but why does my heart still hurt?

I have been trying today to take myself that step higher, that step further within my beliefs and spirituality. I have read a lot of articles surrounding the rewire your own brain formula. it is very similar to my therapy when you break it down in to basic terms, just don’t think them thoughts, don’t give them your energy. It all sounds so simple but it is what works. With meditation and belief, opening up your heart and your mind and just accepting who you are. understanding no one is perfect but we should always be kind, that just because you don’t agree with someone’s way of thinking, if it doesn’t affect anyone, then you have no right to judge. Maybe I’m wrong?

I don’t normally comment on hate post’s on social media, I am not the argue through the screen type normally, well to be honest I tend to shy away from conflict completely unless it is absolutely necessary but I always try to stand my ground. I watched a video earlier, an amazing young boy was doing a makeup tutorial and he was good, I mean, make up artist/ drag queen perfection! he had talent! I was in awe of him for the entirety of the video and couldn’t help but notice the top comment, it was awful The hate and judgement and bullying of this poor boy for doing what he obviously loves. It really makes my heart hurt, and that’s what I said. I was no prepared for the comments I would get!

It makes sad and worried for humanity sometimes. The hate and judgement and nasty comments from people who dont even know this boy. That’s enought internet for today. I just wanted to share this to put out some love, to give anyone who is reading this a little piece of my energy to help with your day, to share good thoughts and positive vibes as the world really needs more of that. Blessed be.